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It’s January 2nd, which means 364 pages of the 2019 book are still unopened. At the start of the year, planning is always at its best, and “the dreaming is free” expression is used at its finest! I have been writing my New Year’s Resolution since I was … (I don’t remember how old). Sometimes I wrote a long list on sheets of papers that got washed in my clothes pockets, and with the soap and water, my dreams vanished. When I was little, like very little, I was so happy when I lost/ forgot my resolutions because then I thought I would be able to live like a butterfly, careless and excited that I had nothing to fight for. Hahaha! I thought! I have been chatting about this with my friends, New Year resolutions are (theoretically a strategic plan for the year, a rubric or marking skim for your achievements through the year, a motivation to achieve your long-term and medium-term goals… patati patata!), but to be honest they can sometimes be… how do I phrase this? … Merely BS!
Things changed, time passed by, but still, every time I lost my resolutions papers, I didn’t get to live my butterfly life, and it took me a good number of years to know why. I am going to take you on the journey of how I made this New Year Resolutions thing work, I will share with you the importance of working SMARTer on your resolutions, and if I am a lucky woman, someone might get inspired to do things differently or to work towards being the best version of themselves.
To start, look back to 2018 and choose if you either:
A: Screwed up so much, that you let, or almost let, the deal of your life slip through your fingers (Oh! My bad)
B: Had so much winning, that “Godwin” might be the hymn of your 2018 (Youpiiiiiie!!!)
C: Didn’t know WTH was going on, and you walked into 2019 after a sigh followed by “Oh Okay! just another year, like all the others.” (What was that again?)
Are you A, B, or C? I think I am a B & C hybrid with some recessive genes of A.
Hey, don’t go on reading if you didn’t pick a letter yet because it will make it easy for you to get the rest on a personal level. Whether you screwed, won, or didn’t know WTH was going on last year, resolutions will help you not to screw these 364 days again, to keep winning, or to know WTH you should be doing with your life.
When I was little, I didn’t care much whether I lost or forgot my resolutions, but every end of the year was the same, I had that “Oh Okay!” feeling. I didn’t make a difference whether I topped up in class or whether I did not do so well. I didn’t feel any different, not really proud, not ashamed, not low, not high! It was just a dull feeling of emptiness, indifference, and demotivation. I kept writing resolutions every year, forgot them, and the same dull feeling stayed with me, until 2016 when I started doing what I am going to share with you. However much cliché it may sound, having clear written goals is paramount. It will give you a sense of victory if you hit your targets help you identify the loop if you failed for a better tomorrow.
Apart from losing/forgetting your resolutions, here is another reason resolutions may sound BS though they aren’t. A year! A whole year sounds so long that the mistake I made so many times is feeling like I had the whole time in the world to work on my resolutions. I was wrong! Things changed, but not in a magical snap of fingers. Here is what I did: I partitioned my resolutions into smaller bits to make it easier to manage, having basically four parts, which stand for the 4 quarters of the year. After having my long list, I wrote them down under the four quarters (imagine them being in a table with four columns, nothing fancy, just the simplest table you can imagine). Biggest priorities (important and urgent) resolutions were under the first quarter and other resolutions followed according to the priority. I did this partitioning at the start of the year.
Knowing how SMART goals work, you will surely understand that having a three months time-frame instead of 12 months time-frame will give you a sense of urgency to work on your goals, and it will get your blood pumping and brain working faster. It is as well important to have SMARTer goals, where the “er” at the end stands for Energizing and Rewarding. Don’t make your list of resolutions boring. Include some goals that make your heart beat faster. Is it a vacay with your family, or partner? Is it buying a new bicycle, is it growing a garden at your parents’ house, is it jumping off a helicopter? Nakubwira iki!
There we go! My preaching is done!
This piece is not 100% scientifically appealed, and it’s so opinionated that I backed up my claims with either anecdotes or friends saying. However, I shared what worked for me, maybe it might work for you. You’ll lose nothing by trying, so take that Goddamn paper, notebook, phone or computer and make a list of your resolutions, and not to lose your resolutions, use a notebook that you won’t easily loose, or a Google doc or something, then (not that I am Nike person)… JUST DO IT!
What’s your take on this? What do you think are mistakes or misconceptions about New Year resolutions? Feel free to comment.